HOW TO LET GO OF LIMITING BELIEFS!
Whenever we are going through something, whenever we feel like we are tapping into that victim mentality, when we start to run stories that have us behaving in ways that do not serve us, these are all signs our limiting ideas or beliefs are trying to be seen!
ARE YOU IGNORING YOUR LIMITING IDEAS/BELIEFS?
It is super easy as humans to live day to day with the idea that life is happening TO us. That we are the victim of our environment HOWEVER… it is the complete opposite.
LIFE happens FOR us and all that we are challenged with, that tests us, holds EPIC lessons and teachings that allow us to evolve and continue to experience ourselves and our lives in the most aligned and powerful way.
So how is it that so many of us are not happy? That so many of us do not achieve what we WANT to. That we feel crazy amounts of fear, doubt and shame and these feelings prevent us from doing the things we crave to do and experience.
WE ARE ALL PROJECTED INTO THE WORLD WITH A PROGRAM. SOFT-WEAR THAT IS RUNNING IN THE BACKGROUND OF WHO WE ARE THAT WE USE TO CREATE THE WORLD AROUND US.
This program/soft-wear is a set of ideas, beliefs, choices, feelings and thoughts. All which are based upon our experience of the first 7-10 years of life and are then played out through our choices and behaviour from then on. Some are positive and allow us to kick ass, feel confident, achieve whatever we want and feel joy, love and happiness. Some are limiting and negative and allow us to feel fear, shame, sadness, doubt, anger and resentment and keep us from doing, having or feeling the way we want to.
Most of us are not CONSCIOUSLY aware of what this soft-wear looks like and what is running behind the scenes for us, but we ALL have the ability to tap into what is limiting us and choose to change it.
SO HOW THE HELL DO YOU DO THAT?
STEP ONE: Create heard-core, deep awareness of whats showing up for you right now!
Grab yourself a pen and paper/journal and write down all the ways in which you are showing up or behaving that does not feel aligned with how you want to feel and what you want to experience.
eg: I am hating being at work at the moment. I am agitated and frustrated because I feel over worked and unappreciated. I am not approachable to my colleges and every day I am so exhausted and drained. I want people to help me but I don’t ask for it.
STEP TWO: Ask yourself what ideas or beliefs are attached to this behaviour.
eg: I can’t speak up about how I feel because people will think I can’t do my job. Asking for help is a sign of weakness. If I show people with my body language that I am exhausted and unhappy, people will give me what I need.
STEP THREE: Reframe the above ideas/beliefs firstly by asking yourself “how do I know this is true” and secondly, asking yourself “Is this allowing to have, feel, do, receive what I want? Why?”
eg: I can’t speak up about how I feel because people will think I can’t do my job.
How do I know this is true? - I don’t but I am worried that this is what they will think of me.
Is this allowing me to have, feel, do, receive what I want? - No, because no one knows that I am struggling, so how can they help me.
STEP FOUR: Create a new Idea/ belief that aligns with what it is you want to have, feel, do, receive. And what NEW +ve behaviour will this create.
eg: Showing up open and honest allows me to feel supported and allows me to do my job well.
New behaviour - I express openly to my leader/boss/manager how I am feeling and what I feel I need in order to fulfil my role.
STEP FIVE: Feel into how your reality will feel different in light of this new idea/belief and new behaviour.
eg: I will enjoy my job more because I feel heard and supported. I will enjoy the people I work with and feel energised and productive. Because I have shown I am open to receiving help, people will come to me and approach me easily.